Too Stubborn to Change?

"Stubborn and ardent clinging to one's opinion is the best proof of stupidity."
-Michel de Montaigne

Some people say they want to change and do and some people say they want to change and then make every excuse why they can't. They may actually believe they want to change but the reality is that their old beliefs and the reasons they hold onto them serve a purpose. Beneath their so called inability to change lies an unconscious pay off for them.

Beside the fact that it's the old and the familiar; it is who and what they identify themselves with. It's their "story" so to speak and it's comfortable. The pay off can range anywhere from attention, albeit negative, to freeing them from facing the truth and then having to deal with it.

When talking to these these types of people about actually implementing the needed changes in their lives, they will rationalize, justify and make any excuse in the book as to why it is so difficult or impossible for them. They are hell bent on staying the same even though they give lip service to desiring change.

Sadly they don't realize that their bullheaded, uptight way of approaching life is a self imposed obstacle they need to overcome in order to live the kind of life and experience what they so desperately seem to want.

If you are stuck in a rut and have your head so far in the sand that you're suffocating the joy of life out of yourself why not lighten up, listen to some of the advice that your friends and family are offering, it may be the very thing you need to do and the very thing you insist on resisting.

Change isn't always easy, but when you opt to stay the same don't expect to ever have or experience the very things you say you want. If you think there is a payoff in staying the same, the true payoff is when you dig down deep, rid yourself of your outdated beliefs and open your mind to a new way of viewing things.

If you open your heart just a little to seeing things from another perspective it might also open the doors to the very changes you only once dreamed of before. Being stubborn inhibits the power to change where as perseverance in your pursuit to change will allow you to accomplish the very thing that has eluded you in the past.


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