Trying to Resurrect a Dead Relationship?

Published: 29th March 2010
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"We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us." -Joseph Campbell

Have you heard of the movie, The Night of the Living Dead? Well when you are trying to hold onto a relationship that is over, it's not a movie anymore, it's your reality! When one person doesn't want to be in a relationship and the other person is still holding on it is literally like trying to resurrect someone from the dead.

This is your wakeup call. Why keep trying to do the impossible? Where is it getting you? How is it making you feel? Has it worked yet? And, when are you going to finally give up?

Wanting to call just one more time, texting to get a response (which is NEVER the response you want), going to places where you might run into them is simply a waste of your time and energy. Your time and energy would be better spent on accepting reality and focusing on anything else but what you are focused on.

Carrying around the painful emotions of a relationship that is over and harboring "if only" hopes is weighing you down and is the exact reason you remain stuck. Sure you can keep torturing yourself if you really want to but why would you?

Look, no one likes to be on the receiving end of unrequited love. But if you find yourself there you have to take the steps to let go and stop holding onto something that is never going to happen. By not accepting the truth and holding onto some kind of imagined hope you are only hurting yourself and putting your life on hold.

Plus, the day someone does come along you will have gone from one minute hopelessly yearning over a dead relationship to all of a sudden open to this new love? That is called carrying baggage into a new relationship!

Take the time to heal. Stop banging your head against a wall wanting something that is over. And, realize that there really is a whole world out there waiting for you to open up to it. So, stop being so emotionally tied to the past that YOU become the living dead.

No person is worth it, especially one who isn't even a part of your life anymore. Pick yourself up, open your eyes and start a new journey forward and leave the past behind. It will be well worth your effort when you finally let go.

In the end you ultimately choose whether you are going to hold on or let go by your actions and your thoughts. So choose them wisely!


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